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Rhodochrosite andCalendula - an Ancient Tonic for Healing the Heart

Rhodochrosite (crystal): softens the heart and supports it to feel big waves of emotion without shutting down; it calls into the present moment situations that will question old beliefs and give you the room to ask transformational questions, even through the triggers.

Calendula (flower): clears the field, removes electromagnetic pollution and uplifts the heart as lower densities release. This feels gentle, easeful and strong. (Calendula is also used interchangeably with the word marigold.)

I want to tell you about how these two gifts helped me recently. Last week, as I was wandering the coffee and tea aisle in the grocery store, my hands grazed upon the marigold tea. I picked it up off the shelf and knew instantly that the tea was for me. It was one of those moments that happen from time to time, when something has more to it than meets the eye. In the plant world, it’s the spirit of the plant knocking at your front door saying that she or he would like to assist you.

I spent a week drinking marigold tea before I decided to research the effects it had on a human consciousness. I like to first spend time trusting my intuition without any preconceived notions and then, later on, see if what I feel is matching up with what the rest of the world is saying. To clear up the language confusion, I learned that the words calendula and marigold are used interchangeably in literature, yet calendula is actually a type of marigold flower and there are two types; taget and calendula. Taget, in healing, is for topical use only.

After I began drinking the tea, I realized that I also owned a tincture of calendula made by a lovely woman in Co-Claire Ireland. I added 3 drops into the tea as well. I had an opportunity to attend one of this woman’s workshops in the summer of 2018 and it had a huge impact on me.

She writes that, “Marigold or Mary’s Gold is an essence that honours Mother Mary. It is a powerful, creative force that brings brightness and joy to our hearts, carrying the healing rays of orange and green, which are purifying and uplifting. The essence cleanses and protects against pollution and radiation. It clears electromagnetic pollution, cleanses the chakras, and attunes us to spiritual guidance, amplifying spiritual energies.”

When I began to read up on marigold Saturday morning I burst into laughter… clears electromagnetic pollution! This is where things start to get magical! The Friday night before, a Telus employee knocked on my door because the building I live in had installed fibre-optics and he was offering an upgrade to all the Telus clients. After a quick discussion with him, I had ethernet cords installed free of charge which eliminates the wifi in my home…. clearing electromagnetic pollution. And as a plus, I am paying $40 less than I was before! All I had to do was open the front door when I heard the knock :)

This is the power of the plants! They alter the energies in our bodies and auric field,

which in turn changes our reality. Remember that subtle energy holds coded programs, and when we make change from a cellular level - our reality changes. It is important to know how to work with plants, as it is not just a matter of ingesting them. We also have to focus our intent and enter into a relationship with the plant; similar to the way you would befriend an innocent child. For the magic to unfold, we must enter the relationship with loving curiosity and gratitude!

Relax, open your heart, feel awe and wonder and trust your intuition. When you ingest it, whether that be through tea or a tincture, examine with your inner senses and trust your intuition.

Calendula in my life is working its healing magic in easeful and tangible ways. On top of that, my medicine allies soon became a team of two.

A couple of day’s after I purchased the tea, I was out with a former boss to plan a

workshop. It was a beautiful crisp and sunny fall day. We checked out the event venue, strolled, had a hot beverage and popped into a crystal store. We moseyed and browsed and there at the back of the store was a rhodochrosite crystal amulet, and it was on sale. I felt it again - the weight of the crystals offering. This stone was also meant to be my medicine, and so I bought the necklace.

I’d like to write an entire blog about crystals, but for now I’ll speak on it briefly. Why do crystals heal? Crystals are the material architecture of condensed cosmic light codes and they write the geometric alphabet of light physically in matter. Magical right? The vibration of each crystal carries certain qualities that can assist us and align our lives. With inward focus and practice we can learn to completely relax our body on a cellular level. When the body and mind are completely relaxed, our DNA expands. We can assimilate and work with the light of these crystals and integrate a healthier, more aligned energetic into the body. The denser material of the crystals hold resonance more strongly than our human bodies, which are mostly made of water. So when we place a crystal close to the body, the body entrains to the more aligned vibration of the crystal. All we have to do practice being relaxed and receptive, and train our minds to hold a focused intend for a certain amount of time.

Then, in real time, life makes the necessary changes that the crystal or plant is calling us to make – which can be easy or difficult, depending on the nature of the moment. As for meeting our crystal helpers, the same thing goes as with the plants. Say hello to this beautiful being that has desired to be in your life, and treat it with the same amount of love, awe and reverence you would a small child. Say hello and be playful while you get to know each other before you ask it to help you. Hold it in your hands, sense into it with love and let your intuition guide you!

The following information on Rhodochrosite is gathered from The Crystal Wisdom

Healing Oracle by Judy Hall, and Crystals for Energy Healing by Ashely Leavy.

Rhodochrosite is known as the healer of hearts. It teaches the heart to assimilate powerful feelings without shutting down. It resolves denial, identifies ongoing detrimental patterns, releases resentment, and offers compassionate love and forgiveness. It allows the user to face the truth with loving awareness.

It signifies that its time for a change of viewpoint. You will begin to see the gifts of your experience rather than seeing the negative effects. It may be helpful to check out if what you learned as a child is still relevant to the person you are today. It supports the clearing of karma and negativity from your ancestral line on the level of DNA. It restores the soft tissues of the body after illness or injury.

So I knew that Rhodochrosite was my helper and after reading all this information the aha! moment didn’t come as quickly as it did with the tea. But after letting it sit, this is what I deduced. I’ve always had a knowledge that my physical heart was numbed out - even as a kid I was going to the doctor and asking … why does it feel numb here? They unfortunately did not have the answer.

I studied my experience of the week prior to lining up with my new helpers, and realized that for about two days I binge-watched the television. I knew this was not the best idea, and to be honest, was quite critical on myself for it, as I run my own business - and I had shit to get done! But then I tracked it. For weeks, I had been speaking to something frozen in my psyche that wanted to reveal itself. For the heart, big and difficult emotions sometimes mean that it will shut down in order to cope. After putting on the necklace, my painful emotions started to open up. I felt very insecure and uncertain of myself, yet I was still doing all of the things I needed to do. That was the difference this time – instead of shutting down into a freeze mode, I was continuing on, through my painful emotions. The rhodochrosite was helping my heart to stay open, feel, and process forward.

This is when I messaged my father, who was helping me with a business plan. I said to him, “I know you are probably upset with me because I haven’t given you my business plan, but I have been dealing with some self-esteem issues, but am now working through it and so I am almost done now.” I find that it’s always best to be honest! My dad immediately said, “I don’t know where you got that from Marnie, but I am certainly not mad at you!” Bells ringing… It may be helpful to check out if what you learned as a child is still relevant to the person you are today.

I grew up in a family that was emotionally disconnected, and I write about things like that because for children, when something goes wrong, they usually blame themselves. Blaming themselves is a lot safer than consciously acknowledging that their environment is unsafe, since it is something that they cannot control. When we turn it towards ourselves, it is a safety response. Later in life, these beliefs stay with us until we become aware enough to change them. With the Rhodochrosite as my ally, I was able to see this long time ingrained negative self-talk beginning to become unhinged. All because I was able to feel all the feels!

So there you have it - rhodochrosite for opening and supporting the heart to feel the big traumas with awareness, compassion, and strength, and marigold to clear all the toxic energies from the environment and to uplift the heart though the support of mother Mary. It is the perfect duo for me in the moment.

Much love to you all,


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